When the going gets tough... loved ones send support. It's amazing what a short, thoughtful note can do to make someone feel cared for during a hard time, but it can sometimes be difficult to know what to say. We're here to help with a few simple tips.
Acknowledge the Loss
Whether someone has lost a loved one, a pet, or a pregnancy, addressing their situation directly (but always gently) may help them feel less alone. Try something like, "I'm so sorry about your dad's passing."
A tip: If they didn't tell you about the loss directly, it can be clarifying to share how you learned of it. Try: "Shaina told me about Jojo's passing, and I wanted to let you know how very sorry I was to hear the news."
Sympathize with the Feeling
There's really nothing more healing than being reminded that others have gone through similar things — and gotten through them. Sharing a personal experience, without negating their individual situation or feelings, can illustrate real empathy. Try: "When my father passed away last year, it felt like the world as I knew it had crumbled beneath my feet. It's so hard, but time has helped."
Offer Support
The more specific the support, the better, as grief can make it difficult to ask for — or even know — what you need. Let your friend or family member know how you'd like to help them during this time, as well as offering to be there for them whenever they need a shoulder to cry on. Try: "I can bring you a home cooked dinner (with a bottle of wine, of course) any night this week — just say when."
Need help deciding on the perfect condolences card?
We like using our Je T'aime Notecards or anything from our Monogram Collection for something that feels personal and appropriate.
