One of our readers regrets have a threesome with her husband and best friend. Are you thinking of bringing someone else into your bed? Follow these rules.
Let’s face it. Bringing a third person into your bed can be a little weird. The best way to approach it is to set the ground rules ahead of time.
Threesome rule #1 - Honesty
The two of you need to be completely honest about it. You have to both want it and you have to be able to talk about everything. Set rules beforehand to about what you can and can’t do with the third person. Think of everything that might piss you of beforehand and discuss it honestly and openly. Until you’ve come to an agreement on everything and both feel comfortable, it’s never going to work.
Threesome rule #2 – Get a Gameplan
- Figure out where you’re going to meet this person. Are they a friend or stranger.
- What is going to happen when you’re done? Presumably the third person is going to leave.
- Discuss that now. How far do you want to go? Will it be an evening on oral stimulation or will penetration be involved? Is anal sex allowed? What about any sort of bondage? You should discuss of all this ahead of time to reduce the risk of pissing someone off.
Threesome rule #3 – Don’t Get Left Out
Discuss the mechanics of the threesome. What is the wife going to do while her husband is plowing another woman? Perhaps missionary shouldn’t be a sexual position available to your husband. If he is on his back one woman can be straddling him while the other sits on his face. Assuming the women are bi-curious, the husband can go from behind on one woman while the other gives oral sex. There are lots of way to keep the three people active. Figure them out now.
Threesome rule #4 – Protection
You and your husband probably have unprotected sex. When bringing another person into your bed, you’re opening yourselves up to the possibilities of catching something. Use condoms, consider only hooking up with people who are tested, test yourselves. You know the drill.
Threesome rule #5 – Reconnect
After a threesome, you might be feeling emotionally unsettled. Watching your spouse have sex with someone else isn’t your typical Friday night. Make sure to connect emotionally following a threesome to reinforce your commitment to one another.
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