Do you think this reader’s girlfriend is using sex as a weapon?
I have a question about my girlfriend’s behavior lately. One day during tumultuous times, she decided that she no longer wanted to have sex and declared it hurt. I cannot confirm any medical condition nor deny so. Fast forward a few years, she is back in the saddle but as for me, after a year and a half of no sex, I can live without. Over the last month she encouraged me to re-engage in Marijuana use for anxiety. Suddenly last night she began a sermon about how much she hates pot and it disgusts her. I was doing fine without pot for several years and now I am really confused. I love her dearly and want to shape things up. I am very flexible and committed.
Your girlfriend sounds like she should be smoking pot. To stop sex for a year and a half and then suddenly begin without an explanation is irregular. Women don’t stop having sex without a reason. Check out my article, Low Sex Drive for more reasons women stop having sex to see where she fits. It sounds to me like she’s pissed at you about something and instead of discussing her feelings like an adult, she is pouting and throwing a fit like a child. That theory also explains the strange pot reaction. Why would someone encourage you to smoke pot and then throw it in your face a month later? Because she’s looking to pick a fight.
She was using sex as a weapon and now that you’ve resigned to “living without it,” she lost her power and is looking for another way to put you down and regain the power she lost. No matter how you swing it, your girlfriend is being a royal bitch and treating you like shit. Using sex as a weapon is probably just the tip of the iceberg with your gf. If you start really thinking about it, I bet you can think of many instances where she tries to control and manipulate you.
It’s time to sit down and have a rational, heart to heart with your lady. She clearly has some pent up anxiety and anger that she’s expressing in destructive ways. Until she is willing to discuss her issues with you like an adult, your relationship will continue to suffer and you will be left dealing with a Jekyll and Hyde Girlfriend.
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