Nothing is more ambiguous than being “on a break” from your relationship. WTF is that? You’re stuck in limbo until the other person decides what they want to do. In the game of love, those rules are unfair! This reader wants to know how to handle it.
Dear Annabelle,
My boyfriend and I went on a break after Thanksgiving, we still say I love you and see each other every day – I even went to his family’s house for Christmas. He says we’re going to get back together and that he just needs some time and wants to save some money. I don’t know if I should believe him or not. I don’t want to sit here and wait for something if it’s not going to happen. Should I give him some time? How much is too much time?
You’ve already given him enough time. You’re ex-boyfriend is being ridiculous. If you think you’re spending too much money dating, you stop going out and spend time together doing inexpensive thing – you don’t take a break because of it. If you love someone, you don’t take a break from them because you want to be with the person you love. There is only one solution to this situation.
Cut him off completely.
As long as you’re still in his life, he can take as much time as he wants to figure things out because you’re still his girlfriend without any strings attached. He still gets you in his life but has no obligation to be faithful to you what-so-ever. He gets all the perks and doesn’t have to deal with any of the responsibilities of having a girlfriend. That stops now.
Tell him that you love him and want to be with him but until he’s ready to commit to you, you are out of his life. Not talking, no texting, no Facebooking. Nothing. Once he gets a taste of his life without you, he’ll have to really start thinking about the “break” that you’re on.
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