Yesterday we tackled making friends in high school and today it’s all about getting the girl. Will our advice help this reader from the Netherlands get his dream girl???
Hello Annabelle!
As tip, you said helping a girl is a good idea. I’d love to help her. In fact I would open doors all day long for her. The problem is that:
- We don’t have many doors in school.
- I don’t really know her, so where could I help her with.
- I’m not funny.
- I don’t really know how to approach her (I’m shy).
- I won’t say she looks so pretty with a lot of people around her.
I think you’re putting the cart before the horse on this one. You’re trying to figure out how to do nice things for someone who you don’t even know. Step 1. Get to know her. Step 2. Do nice things for her.
So the question becomes: How do you get to know her?
If you’re in school together, you must have something that brings the two of you into the same environment: classes, after school activities, clubs… Use those as an opportunity to get to know her and the only way you’re going to do that is by getting over your shyness and talking to her. Of course that seems like a gigantic hurdle but you’re gonna have to jump it. The easiest way is by telling yourself that you’re trying to become friends with her. You’re not asking her out – you’re getting to know her. It takes off the pressure and allows you to be yourself and figure out if you even really like this girl. Once you get to know her, you might find out that she’s not really your type and your better off friends. But you’ll never figure any of this out until you talk to her!
Just take a deep breath and start a conversation. It’s not as hard as it seems. It might help you to practice. Start conversations with other girls at school and notice how easy it is. Once you get into your conversation mo-jo, it’s time for your dream girl. Practice makes perfect…
