Some people use text messages as a crutch.  They’re too shy or scared or whatever reasons they spin in their head.  In the world of dating texting can be your biggest downfall.  Want to know if you’re making the right moves?  

Dear Annabelle,

I have a huge thing for this girl but I get all nervous when I try to ask anyone out.  Is it ok to ask a girl out by text message?  

Shy Guy

Dear Shy,

I’m sorry but no.  Asking a girl out via text message or email is a cop out and isn’t going to get you that date.  If you’re interested in a girl, you need to call her or see her face to face and ask her out.  Women want to be wooed and wooing does not happen through a cell phone.  Just pluck up your courage and go for it.  You’ll be fine.  The worst thing that could happen is she’ll say no and then you’ll find someone else to ask out.  It’s simple really.  This is not life or death.  It’s just dating.  Here are some cardinal text rules when you first start dating:

Text Etiquette While Dating

Don’t Ask a Girl Out Over Text

Rule #1.  For all the reasons stated above.  Just don’t do it.  If you can’t ask a girl out in person, you’re not ready to date.  Period.

Do Follow Up After the Date with a Text

Once you get home after a date, it’s really nice to send a quick text saying you had a nice time.

Don’t Rely on Texting for the Second Date

Texting might be easier but don’t fall into the pattern of texting all the time.  Pick up the phone and call her.  Even if it’s a quick conversation, calling means so much more than texting.

Don’t Break Up Over Text

This is a pile of crap.  Breaking up over text message is shitty, so don’t do it or forever be known in her circle as the douchebag who broke up with your girlfriend via text.

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