If he’s stopped sleeping with you there’s something wrong. Want to know what’s going on?
Dear Watson,
What do men really want in bed? I think my boyfriend is losing interest in me sexually.
Concerned
If your boyfriend is losing interest in you sexually, it probably has nothing to do with what you’re doing in bed. Guys lose interest in sex for a few reasons (none of which you’re going to want to hear).
Why Men Lose Interest in Sex:
HE’S NO LONGER ATTRACTED TO YOU
This is the #1 reason guys lose sexual interest in their partner. People often let themselves go when they get into a relationship and it can affect our attraction to you. Guys are visual. We want to bang the hot girl. Just because we love you doesn’t mean we’re attracted to you. It sucks, but it’s true.
HE’S STRESSED OUT
Sometimes not wanting to have sex is cause we’re stressed and need time to deal with it. A lot of guys deal with stress by mulling it over and when we’re “mulling” we generally want to be left alone.
HE’S CHEATING ON YOU
Sometimes we stop having sex with you cause we’re having sex with someone else.
HE’S IN A RUT
We’ve been having monogamous sex for awhile and are bored with the same routine. Couples figure out what gets the other person off and instead trying new things, we end up going right for the finish line. This doesn’t mean you have to start doing crazy shit in bed. Just get on top or go doggie. Change it up.
HE’S EXPERIENCING SOME SORT OF SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION
The last thing a guy wants to admit is that his dick doesn’t work. It’s possible he’s having trouble in erection land and doesn’t want to tell you about it because he’s embarrassed.
So there you have it. A guy doesn’t stop having sex with you for no reason, there’s something behind it and now it’s your job to figure out what’s going on.
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